It’s easy to detect in other persons but it’s not when it comes to you. Most difficult people do not know it. They think they’re just helping people do things right, not realizing they’ve become pains in the neck. So don’t fall for it. The moment you see you’re turning difficult, stop it.
Here are the top 5 signs:
- You think everybody’s wrong. When you start seeing wrong in everything people do and think you have to correct them, you’re turning. It’s okay to notice wrong things people do. The danger zone is when you think you have to correct them all. Majority of wrong things can be ignored. I mean, the world’s not going to end because of them. Simply keep things to yourself—or maybe blog about them.
- You easily get pissed off. And especially by tiny, little, minuscule things like unkempt hair, the way people dress, people airing their opinions that oppose yours—or the other way around—forcing your opinions on others. A lot of things that piss you off are not worthy of attention. Just forget about them and be more tolerant.
- You become an insufferable perfectionist. You have high standards you impose on others—but sometimes you do not apply them to yourself. If you believe in high standards, by all means impose them on yourself. Not on others. Respect other people’s standards for themselves. Except, of course, if you’re the boss in the office.
- You always compare people to yourself. This is especially so with achievements. Or the way things were when you were young. Or the difficulties you had to go through. It’s okay to share about your experience but never to compare yourself with others–to show that you are better.
- Control. This is last but not least and often goes with being perfectionist. Once you start trying to control people and situations, you fall for the trap. You become a difficult person and make hell out of people’s lives. You think you know what’s good for people and make them do it. Or, you think that because people don’t see things as you do, they’re wrong and you try to “help” by telling them what they should do.
Avoid these top 5 symptoms and you prevent yourself from being a pain in the ass. for other people.
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