When something goes wrong, do you easily show your disappointment? When someone does wrong that affects you, do you easily react and show how you feel? Or do you often give room for consideration and just forget about how you feel? Photo by Icons8 Team on Unsplash.
Most people need to express their negative reactions to feel better. It kind of evens up the situation—you disappoint me, I embarrass you. So we’re quits, right?
But a trait of good and mature personality is servitude. Meaning, you think of others’ benefit first before you think of yours. Often, this means you try not to attract attention when you feel bad or when disappointed. A lot of people try to make a scene whenever they’re angry.
We ordinarily feel frustrated, sad, disappointed or pissed off when some things or people do not meet our expectations, and it’s okay to feel thus. We’re humans. What’s not okay is when we make ourselves obvious all the time. Sometimes, we even intentionally put down the one who failed our expectations.
There’s a time to look obviously negative, but most times we should avoid doing so. It’s called being considerate, which is a good personality trait to develop. Instead of looking so disappointed when someone fails us, or instead of looking so sad when something goes wrong, we opt to ignore ourselves and put up a positive front. It’s not pretension or being “fake.” It’s called being selfless.
Why? Because we’re concerned about others more than we’re concerned about our feelings. It’s a kind of service. We serve others this way. We care more about how they feel. We hate putting people in uncomfortable situations just because they failed us.
But we need to correct wrongs and sometimes show some anger, too (konti lang) just to emphasize certain points. But not too much. Then we easily cool down and assume a forgiving attitude. And when we need to correct someone, we do it in private, not in front of everybody.
Well, we need to take care of ourselves, too. We do this later when we’re alone and no one sees us. Then we can be ourselves and pour out our woes on ourselves and comfort ourselves. We should develop the ability to heal ourselves.
What I always do is pour out myself and my negative feelings on GOD during my quiet times, in the privacy and comforts of my solitude. Because I know only God can help me. That’s the mindset of a servant.
Even Jesus did not come to be served but to serve and give his life as a ransom for many.
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